Feedback shouldn't hurt

How "no pain no gain" critiques do more harm than good.

High on the list of student and client requests that break my heart into a million pieces is this one:

I want to get some harsh responses to my draft so I really lean to write better.

If I could erase one impulse from the minds of all writers, it would be this one. Where does this come from, this idea that something has to hurt to improve us?

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